A tragedy was unfolding at the booth behind me:
Meanwhile, at another table just across the room:
Whenever I meet a kid who’s a picky eater I assume it’s because someone told him he was. Not necessarily to his face, but the kid might have heard mom say “He doesn’t like vegetables” – and believed it.
This isn’t a parenting lecture. It’s about how we live up to expectations. We also sink to them.
“He doesn’t eat vegetables” later on becomes: “He’s not good at math,” and guess what then? You have a kid who can’t count the calories in a Whopper meal. And he’s learned to say what else he can’t do.
“I’m not good at names” is a common, self-defeating, adult version.
You know why you aren’t good at names? It’s because you say you aren’t. You’re psyching yourself out.
In the morning of a new fence job I tell the guys: This is going to be a nice fence—and that’s what it turns out to be.
And when there’s a rocky day ahead I say: This is easier than it looks. Turns out I’m usually right.
But oddly, when I happen to say: This is gonna’ be hard—I’m also usually right.
I read once how to carry a full cup of coffee. If you think to yourself: “don’t spill it” you’re still using the words …spill it and you’re open to suggestion. The real trick is thinking: easy, easy, easy – or something else phrased in the positive.
Be careful is better than don’t slip. Do well beats don’t mess up. Use the affirmative saying when it’s an option.
So if you want a resolution this year try this: Say optimistic things. You’ll be surprised how often they become reality.